Angry Tea Partier Blames Liberals, recycles discredited lies

This is a "letter to the editor" of the Rochester MN Post-Bulletin newspaper. It was written by a tea partier who is bitter at the shellacking her beloved party received at the ballot box. My response to this bitter woman is below the link.

Liberal voters have ruined our nation

Dear Mrs. Friemann,
Reading your letter to the editor on 11/9/2012, I was disappointed to see just how much you've latched on to partisan spin. The election is over, thankfully. It's time to get off the partisan train and move on as a country.

In your first paragraph, you chastise 'liberals' for the 'blame game', yet in the very next paragraph you recycle the tired spin of the religious right's version of the blame game. Hypocrisy much?

Blaming 'liberals' for the ills of this country is just silly. Liberals didn't cause the economic collapse of 2007, nor did we cause the recession. Both parties had a role to play in the actions that led to the collapse. The fact is that President Bush promoted policies that encouraged, protected, and turned a blind eye to the shenanigans that led to the disastrous collapse. President Bush had an opportunity to scotch the serpent in the egg before the whole thing exploded. The fact that he didn't clearly demonstrates that his laissez-faire worldview blinded him to the dangers building in the housing market. Those dangers were clear to the 'lame stream media' as early as March, 2004.

You complain about the high number of people on food stamps. Why is it so horrifying to you that people who cannot find work should need to eat? Forgive me for the historical inaccuracy, but you sound like Marie Antionette's solution to peasants having no bead: "Let them eat cake". They aren't on food stamps because they're lazy. They're on food stamps because they have no other choice.

As for your complaints about being an ATM card, let me clarify something. I am a small business owner and my domestic partner (soon to be husband) is a physician. As such, we don't benefit from the loopholes or tax breaks that tycoons and venture capitalists get. We also don't benefit from the tax cuts which (rightfully) benefit middle income Americans. In fact, in 2011 on top of our already high taxes, we had to pay income tax of $3000 extra on the health insurance benefits my partner's employer provided for me. That happened because we couldn't get married. So, forgive me if I find your ATM complaint laughable. I don't complain about taxes because I like to have roads, schools, and national defense. I also like to know that my fellow Americans aren't starving to death when the economy slumps. I know there is waste to be eliminated, but partisan bickering makes such progress impossible. While we're on the subject of taxes, Gov. Romney says that low capital gains tax is because of double taxation of corporate earnings. Take a look at the numbers, my dear. Most of the 'double taxed' corporations are pass through entities. As such, they pay zero taxes. This is a tax hoax played on the American people far too long.

Until this summer, we lived in Rochester. I love Minnesota. I love the people, the culture, and niceness, and the beauty of the state. We decided not to 'settle down' in Rochester because we knew of this place where we would be free from discrimination and afforded equality under the law and dignity as individuals and as a loving couple. That place is Washington State. As of this morning, I am fully an equal citizen of my new home state. Question 74 passed, which means that the gay marriage law has been approved by voters. What you see as a catastrophe, I see as something different: democracy.

In closing, I would like to address the 'depression' you believe the country is headed toward. There certainly is depression on the horizon, but it isn't economic. The depression we have to worry about is the negativity of vile partisanship causing depression and division among the American people who used to be united. Let's stop this negativity and move on as a nation. If you don't like the president, that's ok. But his success is tied to the whole country's success. Let's root for our team, and come together to find bipartisan solutions to the massive problems that face our country. We've overcome far worse things, and we've always come out stronger. Let's renew that determined American spirit that was wounded through this nasty election. If we don't come together, your economic depression concerns will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

- Frank Frost

My Conspiracy Theory - China Funding America's Crusade Against Science

I'm normally not one to dream up or even consider conspiracy theories. I usually find them a complete waste of time. However...

I recently read William Shirer's "Rise and Fall of the Third Reich". Mr. Shirer was an American journalist who reported on WWII. He was actually in Berlin during the rise of the Nazi regime. He also gained access to the Nazi regime documents seized by Allied Forces when Germany fell.

In this book, I found one thing particularly worrying: The Nazi records (from their foreign office) showed that the Nazi regime had paid Jacob Thorkelson, an American Republican congressman from Montana, a large sum of money to bring "isolationist delegates" to the Republican National Convention. The idea was to get as many isolationist nominees on the Republican ticket as possible. If elected, these congressmen would make it impossible for the United States to enter the war. I should also mention that opposition to the proposed "Lend-Lease Act" began around the same time.

The documents also showed that Rep. Thorkelson was also paid a very large sum of money to have an advertisement placed in American newspapers arguing to "Keep America Out of the War". This is corroborated by the fact that an ad did appear in the New York Times on June 25, 1940.

After reading this, I got thinking about modern social movements which are homegrown, but could be easily co-opted by multinational corporations or foreign governments to undermine this country.

Here are a few examples I have considered:

1. Anti-Science Movement
2. Anti-Evolution Movement
3. Young Earth Creationists
4. Climate Change Deniers
5. Political Gridlockers
6. Anti-Public-School Movement

I have no evidence that any of these groups being influenced by a foreign government. I am simply saying that these homegrown, yet fringe, groups have somehow managed to gain a strong following despite their unpopularity among moderate, educated, well informed Americans. Keeping in mind what happened with the isolationists before WWII, a serious question must be asked: Who would stand to gain if these homegrown groups are being exploited?

Here are my thoughts:

Anti-Science, Anti-Evolution, Young Earth Creationists
If there were to be foreign exploitation of these movements, it would certainly be aimed at undermining the strong advantage the United States has in research, science, and technology. The main driver behind this is the perception among adherents that evolution is a conspiracy against god, and a lie perpetrated by either liberals or the devil himself. If these fringe groups could be exploited to vilify science, and undermine the teaching of concrete scientific principles, it would lead to a significant drop in the number of scientists produced by the already underfunded American education system.
Who benefits? Our only real rival in the science, research, and technology area is China. Russia is to be considered, but mainly as a second rank rival. This possible 'investment' would pay a triple dividend to the investor. First, it would undermine American technological superiority. Second, the investor nation would then gain a military technology advantage against the United States and all other possible rivals. Third, it would be in a position to sell superior technologies to allies of its choosing.

Climate Change Deniers
I think there are two drivers behind this movement. The first is the belief that a messiah will soon arrive, and this world will come to an end. This obviously leads to a shortsighted, short term view of our relationship to the environment. Afterall, the holy book specifically says that these resources are for mankind's use. The thought process is, Jesus is coming soon. Who cares about pollution or sustainability? Eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we'll have the rapture! The second is our shortsighted drive for profit. I'm not saying that profit is bad. I'm saying that it's bad when coupled with a disregard for the consequences of pollution, deforestation, habitat destruction, and wildlife extinction to the long term health of our planet. It is also interesting to note that Chinese manufacturers have made a hefty profit by selling low cost solar panels and wind turbines to Americans who aren't shortsighted. Our antagonism to the idea of climate change has led to antagonism and lack of support of American companies that supply solar panels and wind turbines. It's even gone as far as criticizing President Obama for a single renewable energy investment that went bad, despite the fact that many of the other renewable energy investments were very successful. The failure rate of these investments has been 1.4%. That's far better than Wall Street ever does.
Who benefits? The existing energy industry is the main beneficiary. They benefit by not having to compete against extremely cheap renewable energy. Consider this fact: If you spend $5000 on solar panels, it might take you 10 years to recover that money in energy savings. But all the while, your reliance on the existing energy industry is significantly reduced, if not eliminated. After the ten year "investment recovery period", the energy you receive is essentially free. The energy industry really doesn't want state, county, municipal governments or public transit authorities investing in renewable energy because it hits their profits. It also gives them less 'price control' power over the governmental buyers.

Political Gridlockers
By gridlockers, I mean members of Congress who obstruct all progress on anything that might minutely benefit the opposing party or the president. Democracy is always a messy, chaotic process. It's a bit like herding cats. But, in the end it is effective because of a concept that has become a four-letter word in Washington D.C.: compromise. In a country as large and diverse as ours, compromise is the only way to get anything done. No one gets exactly what they want, but everyone gets something. It's how democracy works. That concept is not lost on the gridlockers. They fully understand how it's supposed to work. It seems as if their mission is to ensure that it doesn't work.
Who benefits? The main benefactors are government contractors who benefit from the taxpayer and Chinese loan funded gravy train. They don't want that gravy train to stop, or even slow down.

Anti-Public School Movement
At the surface, charter schools and vouchers seem like a fair idea. With charter schools, school tax revenues are diverted to private schools who claim they can do better. The idea is that private schools don't have unionized workers or expensive bureaucracies, so they should be able to provide more teachers, smaller class sizes, and better education results than their public counterparts. With vouchers, parents get a voucher to pay their child's tuition at a private school of their choosing. The problem with both of these systems is that they deprive already underfunded public schools of funding, diverting those funds to private schools that almost exclusively benefit wealthy families. The charter school idea has an additional problem of having unelected school boards, and often being exempt from many state education laws. When a public school is converted to a charter, the new school does not guarantee enrollment of all children in the area served by the former public school. Add on top of that the fact that even the 'non-profit' charter schools turn massive profits, you have much more waste than public school bureaucracies and unionized teachers. Many people see the voucher and charter movement to be another way of re-segregating schools. While some white students would be left at unfunded urban public schools, it would disproportionately effect minority students.
Who Benefits? I'm not going to point the finger at China, although they would benefit competitively from the downfall of American public schools. I think the blame lies squarely with the conservative 'starve the beast' mentality, and the conservative hatred of anything unionized and / or government run. There is also a mantra that is constantly chanted among conservatives that government should be downsized and outsourced to private firms. Let's not forget about the overcrowding, human rights violations, and judicial corruption that has marred the privatization of prisons. By outsourcing education and making it a commodity, we run the risk of having our children stuck in a system of greed, abuse, and corruption. At least with public schools, the school boards are elected and accountable to voters. With charter and voucher schools, the state treasury is opened to looting from private firms, and voters have zero control or input into the system. They can only vote with their feet. But if the entire system is corrupted and greedy, there may not be a choice.

So, that's my conspiracy theory. It may be out there, but these things seem quite feasible. I wonder if many other people ponder these things when they formulate opinions about charter schools and voucher programs...

Pastor Youcef Nadarkhani is Freed, God had nothing to do with it!

Christian Pastor Youcef Nadarkhani has been released from prison in Iran, after having his blasphemy charge reduced to "evangelizing to Muslims". The punishment for this lower crime is 3 years in prison. Since he had already served three years, he was released.

In reading the comments on the "Free Pastor Yousef Nadarkhani" facebook page, I am shocked at the amount of cognitive dissonance required for the commenters to believe that prayer made a difference. I stirred quite a controversy when I posted that I hadn't prayed for the pastor, but instead wrote letters to my congressional representatives and spread the word by talking to friends about his ordeal. Apparently religious people consider praying for a person in distress more important than taking concrete steps to help the person.

This is how I see it: If you're drowning, do you want spectators to pray for you? Or would you prefer that someone throws you a life preserver, or jumps in to help you? My answer is, stop praying and start doing!

I don't intend to disrespect those believers who whole heartedly believe that prayer works miracles. I won't even be an annoying atheist and ask for proof. I will ask believers to consider this: Is it enough to pray, or should the prayer be followed up with action. In my (not so) humble opinion, prayer should always be followed up by some kind of action.

I also want to point out to my religious friends that Pastor Naderkhani's ordeal perfectly illustrates the twin problems of religious fundamentalism and the mixing of religion and government. No one should ever be persecuted for their beliefs (or lack of belief). It is a matter of human dignity. If we wish to protect ourselves from persecution, we should support and promote tolerant secularism as a cultural and national element.

Learned Helplessness, the true oppressor of mankind

I write this post in the hopes that someone who is searching for answers will find it and realize they struggle with learned helplessness, as I did. I was lucky. I had someone who loved me enough to give me a swift kick in the ass, then gently helped me change my ways. Not everyone is so lucky. Many people go their whole lives without realizing that their approach and outlook on life is distorted. They may realize something is wrong, but don't understand the source of their self destructive behavior. If you find that you do struggle with learned helplessness, seek professional help. I will give you some advice on steps you can take yourself, but it is extremely hard to break free of learned helplessness alone. You will need help, even if it's just a friend who loves you enough to give you a swift reality check from time to time.

First, it is important to define what I mean by learned helplessness. The clinical definition is full of long, scientific words. Unless you're a psychologist, the clinical definition will confuse you. That's why I will use my personal definition.

I define "Learned Helplessness" as: An outlook on life where you believe that you have little or no control over events and results in your life. If you break it down into the two words, it's an obvious concept. Learned, meaning this is a habit that is learned. You aren't born with it. It isn't a genetic or biological disorder. Helplessness, meaning a feeling of having no power. Some synonyms of helplessness are: abandoned, vulnerable, destitute, and powerless. The hallmark of learned helplessness is passing blame rather than introspection of your own actions.

This may seem a very foreign concept. But, take a moment to really think about it. When you are faced with a problem do you throw your hands up and assume the worst outcome is inevitable? Or do you examine the problem, consider solutions, and take measurable steps toward a resolution? If you throw your hands up, you've been conditioned to learned helplessness. If you examine, consider, and act, you probably don't have learned helplessness.

Examples of Learned Helplessness:
Learned helplessness manifests itself in varying degrees. Below are some examples:

• A person who is overcome with defeatism, and throws in the towel immediately when faced with a problem. 
• Someone who makes some efforts toward resolving the problem, but gives up as defeated when confronted with a minor obstacle. 
• A person who always avoids problems, or runs away from problems, rather than facing them.

If there's anything to learn from this article it is this: You can overcome learned helplessness! It is really a matter of changing how you look at life, and especially changing your internal dialogue. The truth is, you become what you think about all the time. If you think about failure and hopelessness, you will become those things. You have to change the way you talk to yourself in your mind.

Let me give some background into learned helplessness. Then, we'll get into steps you can take to exorcise it from your life.

Background of Learned Helplessness:
In 1967, psychologist Martin Seligman was studying depression. In some cruel animal experiments, he realized that a dog could be conditioned (taught, learned) to exhibit helpless behavior.

The experiment went something like this:
Two groups of dogs were given electric shocks. In group A, the dogs could avoid the shock by pushing a panel with their nose. In group B, the dogs received the shock regardless of what their actions. After a while, group A mastered avoiding the shocks. However, group B had become listless, unmotivated, and would make no effort to avoid the shocks.

Once the conditioning was complete, the conditioned dogs were put into a box with a low barrier in the middle. To avoid being shocked, they only had to jump over the low barrier to the other side of the box. The hypothesis was that group A would learn quickly and jump to the other side, but group B would exhibit the same helpless behavior and stay in the side with the shocks.

The hypothesis turned out to be true. Despite watching other dogs successfully avoid shocks by jumping to the other side of the box, 6 out of 8 dogs from group B did not take any steps to avoid the shock.

Conditioning in Humans:
You may be thinking: This is all fine and good for dogs, but what does it have to do with me? The truth is, psychological conditioning has the exact same effect on dogs as it does on humans. Just like Pavlov's dog, people can also be conditioned to salivate when hearing a ringing bell. Conditioning is used in advertising all the time. It's the reason you feel hungry when you see a commercial for your favorite restaurant.

In the case of learned helplessness, your conditioning usually begins in your childhood. Sometimes it is the result of neglect and abuse. Sometimes you simply learn it by watching your parents exhibit the same behavior. It's usually a combination of neglect, abuse, and watching your parents. Aside from the neglect and abuse, don't be too hard on your parents. After all, there were probably circumstances beyond their control that led to their conditioning. Blaming others is also a serious problem for those who struggle with learned helplessness, so placing blame should be avoided. Remember, look at solutions rather than looking for someone to blame.

Every child is born with naivete and blind faith. Children are taught moral lessons in very simple terms. All moral lessons are boiled down to a good vs. evil dichotomy, which is easy for young minds to grasp. Attentive parents will slowly "fill in the blanks" of the moral lessons, and teach their kids self discipline and personal responsibility.

Unfortunately, some of us are born into circumstances which left us burdened with learned helplessness. In those circumstances, very few of us have the "blanks" filled in or learn self discipline and personal responsibility. As we grow into adults, we continue to see the world in simple terms of good vs. evil, and we don't learn the lessons of self discipline and personal responsibility. We tend to look at difficulties as insurmountable obstacles rather than problems that have solutions. We learned that our efforts. prompts only superficial introspection of our behavior. Instead, it allows blame to flow to "the devil", and credit to go to God, without much critical introspection on our own actions. Whatever introspection happens, it is so superficial that it does not produce positive reinforcement of positive actions, or negative deterrents to negative behavior. It often leaves us with a deeply held belief that the world is unfair and discriminatory.

We should not be too quick to blame our parents. Very often they inherited the learned helplessness and the "Good / Evil crutch" from their own parents. Going back through your ancestors to place blame is pointless. You don't know what kinds of circumstances each of them faced while raising their own family. That's why we have generations of poverty stricken families that are unaware of the self destructive behavior they pass along to their children. Very often it isn't a matter of being lazy. It's more a matter of the learned helplessness.

I would like to caution against oversimplification in this subject. This is not the same as a believer asking "What would Jesus do". Asking that question is actually self reflective, which is the opposite of the "God / Devil crutch". People who use the "God / Devil crutch" perform very superficial self evaluation, and deflect blame to "the devil" and credit to "God" in the process.


When you mix the naivete of youth, blind faith, learned helplessness, and the "God/devil crutch" together you have an individual with massive capacity for self destruction.

In my opinion, learned helplessness is at the root of the problems that plague otherwise reasonable people. Take a look around you and realize that ONLY YOU have the power to turn your life around. Reflect on the problems you face, and use words like "I take responsibility for...". Take emotional ownership and responsibility for your mistakes, and take steps to ensure you won't make the mistakes in the future.

Once you start taking responsibility for your actions, you will notice that you are making improvements in your life. You aren't a helpless child adrift on rough seas. You are a rational adult who is capable of fixing your problems. If I can do it, anyone can do it.

Why I'm Boycotting Chick-Fil-A

Many on the religious right have complained about how "liberals" are unjustly "punishing" a "good Christian" company for believing in biblical principles, particularly as related to marriage.

As anyone who reads my blog often will know, I am a gay man. I've been in a committed, loving relationship with another man for 9 years. As a gay man, the "biblical marriage" issue is more than just an abstract political question, as it is for most people. For me, this is a serious issue. It's far more than the extra $5000 in federal taxes we had to pay for my health insurance provided by my partner. It's about my personal dignity as a person, and our ability to live our life together with legal protections.

It amazes me to hear "Christians" complain about this boycott. This is no different than the "One Million Moms" group boycotting Starbucks when the company came out in favor of keeping the Washington state gay marriage law (opposing the ballot initiative that would overturn the law). The fact is, these politically motivated boycotts only serve to boost business from the opposing side. I usually don't drink coffee, but I bought a Starbucks caramel malchiado the day I heard of the OMM boycott. The same is true for Chick-Fil-A.

I only went to Chick-Fil-A twice when I lived in Atlanta. I was a little surprised to find them closed one Sunday, so I looked them up online. I found that their "closed sundays" policy is motivated by the owner's strong Christian convictions. Being a respectful Atheist, I thought: Good for you! I then moved on with my business. I later heard stories in Atlanta of Chick-Fil-A harassing and firing "homosexuals" who were "discovered". I also heard of them firing single women who were pregnant out of wedlock. I called their corporate office and spoke with their PR guy. When asked about firing gay people, he told me there are no laws against that in the state of Georgia. When I pointed out the gender discrimination of firing pregnant women, he abruptly ended the conversation and hung up. Regardless of your "convictions", firing people for being gay or pregnant is absolutely unacceptable in my book.

That's why I've had a boycott against Chick-Fil-A since 2006. It has nothing to do with the owner's "religious convictions", or discriminating against "Christian values". It has everything to do with their discriminatory employment practices.

I also have a standing boycott of Walmart over their employment practices and the fact that they push manufacturers to move manufacturing jobs oversees. It also has to do with the devastation left behind in local retail when the company moves into an area. My mother also works for Walmart, and there's a horrible incident that demonstrates the evil of that company. Again, it has nothing to do with the Walton's religious views.

For those of you who believe that I choose to be this way, consider this: I was born to a conservative religious family in a very religious part of the country. I prayed and fasted for years, begging god to relieve me of the burden of the "unholy urges". The church told me that if god didn't change me, this was my burden in life. They told me celibacy was my only option. When I was 18, they wanted to put me into an electro-shock therapy program (evergreen international), but I refused. I tried for years to change. My self loathing led me to very bad places. The hurt didn't heal until I accepted that I was born this way. It took years for me to re-tune my life, but I am happy now. I would probably be dead if I hadn't changed my outlook and stopped the self loathing. I don't expect you to understand. Afterall, you haven't had this struggle. I only ask you to respect the massive effort I put forward, and respect my personal conclusion that I was born this way. 

Now, let's move on to the grievances we gays have been complaining about for decades.
Here is a list of higher taxes gay and lesbian couples have to pay:
Health Insurance (if provided by same sex partner's employer)
Gift Tax
Inheritance Exemption
Dependent Credit (if one partner is dependent on the other)
Married vs. Single Tax Differences
Many others, depending on the state.

In the event of hospitalization, a host of paperwork must be filled out for "visitation rights" which married couples have automatically. Even if your paperwork is in order, the hospital can still deny visitation.

In the event of death and inheritance by the surviving same-sex partner, there is no exemption on the inheritance tax. Married couples have a very large exemption which eliminates the vast majority of inheritance taxes. We have half of our estate taken away by the government when one of us dies.

In the event of death the deceased's family can (and often does) sue the surviving partner for their relative's assets. Even if they have all the legal maneuvering completed to form trusts and wills, the deceased family can hire a good lawyer and take everything the couple spent their lives building. Even if the family does not prevail, it is a massive expense to defend your property against homophobic family members who didn't care enough to come around when your partner was alive!

My partner is a brown person. As such, he is always stopped by TSA and searched. Invariably, I stop and wait for the unconstitutional search to finish. The TSA agent (seeing my size and annoyance) orders me to "move along", and they hassle and threaten us with detention when I refuse. I'm not about to leave my beloved at the hands of the TSA thugs. I will always observe their mistreatment of him, even if I am powerless to stop it. We can't even fill out the same customs form when we enter the country.

These are just a few examples of how same-sex couples are mistreated and our dignity violated. These examples show why we need legal protections far beyond contracts, wills, and trusts. We need legal equality with married straight couples. If that equality can be brought about by having a "separate but equal" institution, I am fine with that. The problem is, there are organizations who are so opposed to our very existence that they work tirelessly to hollow out the equality in civil unions and domestic partner registries. An "unintended consequence" of many of these "marriage amendments" is to eliminate civil unions and domestic partner registries that have nothing to do with marriage. That's why we push for full marriage.

We aren't trying to take away from the institution of marriage. We are seeking legal protections and equality. We seek human dignity. Nothing less will be acceptable, nothing more is expected.

How I Survived a Septoplasty & Turbinate Reduction

It all started in 1996 when I broke my nose in a "confidence building" exercise. I was on the state SCHIP type health program at the time, and they absolutely refused to pay to fix my nose. So I went through the rest of high school with a crooked nose. Then in 2000, I slipped in the shower and broke my nose again, thus increasing the damage. I had employer sponsored health insurance, so I was able to get a rhinoplasty done. I was told they couldn't do anything about the previous damage until the rhinoplasty healed. My nose was still a little crooked, but I still couldn't breath well through it. By the time the rhinoplasty healed, I had lost my insurance again.

Fast forward 12 years, and I have decent insurance again. So I had a septoplasty and turbinate reduction done 11 days ago. I will share my experience with you. This if for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice. Consult your physician about these ideas before you put them into practice.

Weeks Before Surgery:
The ENT surgeon told me to avoid "blood thinning" medications, foods, beverages, and herbs for two weeks before the surgery. I found this list online, but your doctor may have other restrictions.

The Night Before Surgery:
I was advised not to eat anything after midnight, only clear liquids 4 hours before the surgery, and nothing (not even water) 2 hours before the surgery. I was told that jello would be ok up to 4 hours before surgery. This is all to make sure your stomach is completely empty when they give you anesthesia. If your stomach is not empty, there is a possibility that your stomach contents could regurgitate while you are unconscious. It could end up in your lungs, and cause life threatening problems. So follow pre-operative instructions exactly.

The Day of the Surgery:
I arrived at the hospital at my "report time", and they took me to a hospital room to await surgery. The surgeon was behind, so it ended up being 3 hours before they came to get me. The nurse was certain it would be at least 2 hours, so she gave me some water.

When they told me they were ready, the asked me to empty my bladder. If possible, try to empty your bladder before going to the operating room. It makes your time in the "recovery room" far more difficult if you have a full bladder on top of everything else.

I hopped on the gurney, and they wheeled me into a prep room (not the operating room). I answered a few questions, and a nurse got an IV inserted in my arm. After a few minutes of waiting, they wheeled me into the operating room.

Operating Room:
In the operating room, they asked me a few questions about reactions to anesthesia. Then I moved onto the operating table. I was asked to put my head on a support that was uncomfortable, but it opened my airway. They started the anesthesia in the IV, and put the gas mask over my face. The nurse asked me to think of a happy place. I was out cold in about 5 seconds.

Recovery Room:
I regained consciousness in the recovery room. The first thing I remembered was feeling extremely hot. Apparently that isn't unusual after anesthesia. I also noticed the roll of gauze taped against my nostrils. The nurse gave me some ice chips to suck on, but told me not to crunch them between my teeth. She removed the blanket, and I started to cool down. The nurse asked if I felt any nausea, and I said no. After I cooled down a bit, they wheeled me back to my room.

Hospital Room:
After I got back to my room, they took my temperature and blood pressure. They also gave me some ice water. After about 20 minutes they gave me some apple sauce, and made sure I could keep it down. It took me another 20-30 minutes before I felt stable enough to stand up. They removed the IV, checked my temperature and blood pressure again. The surgeon came in to let me know everything went well, and that I had very little bleeding. Then the nurse took me for a walk to make sure I could walk without trouble. When I got back to my room, I got dressed and they wheeled me out to the lobby. You probably shouldn't drive, so have someone pick you up. I was told I would need to come back in a week to have the stents removed.

Prescriptions:
The surgeon prescribed pain medication and an antibiotic. He told me to take the pain medication as sparingly as possible because it is a narcotic (addicting). He told me to take the antibiotic exactly as prescribed, and to take it until it was gone. That is to keep the bacteria from developing resistance to the antibiotic.

Nasal Irrigation:
I was also instructed to do 3 saline nasal irrigations every day for 4 weeks. The hospital gave me a "NeilMed Sinus Rinse" starter kit with a plastic irrigation bottle and 5 solution packets. I went to Walgreens and got a 100 pack of solution packets. Follow the instructions from the "starter kit" exactly. Your first irrigation isn't going to be painful (if you followed the instructions), but it isn't a natural feeling. You will get used to it. If you start to squirt the solution and it's feels cold, try microwaving the bottle at 5-10 second intervals until it reaches the right temperature. If it feels like it's burning, stop, dump out the solution, and try again. This time follow the instructions! It should not burn. It will be uncomfortable, it will make your eyes water, but it should not burn. Keep some kleenex tissues nearby. You will need them when you're finished.

Other Supplies to Consider (talk to your doctor):

• A humidifier - I used a warm mist in the bedroom, and a cool mist in the office. I personally prefer the warm mist, but it's really your preference.
• Chap stick - you will be doing lots of mouth breathing, especially at night. Use chapstick to keep your lips from cracking and hurting.
• Neosporin - or any of the antibacterial petroleum ointments will work. Put it around the outside of your nostrils to reduce crusting. It also helps to keep your nose from chafing from the wet gauze.
• Tylenol - At some point you won't need the pain medicine anymore, so Tylenol will work for lower amounts of pain.
  
• Benadryl - I had trouble sleeping the first few nights. I didn't need the pain medicine for pain, and I was worried about taking it just to sleep. So my doctor told me to get benadryl, which made me drowsy. Some doctors say don't use benadryl, some say to use it. Ask your doctor to be sure.
• Sudafed - The first time I tried to do the irrigation, it only went a little up one nostril. I was swollen and congested, so the solution wasn't able to get into the back of my nasal pasage (where it is needed to keep it clean). My doctor told me to try sudafed to reduce the swelling and congestion. It worked like a charm! It cleared up the congestion, and I was able to do the irrigation properly. I got the 12 hour version so I didn't have to remember to take it 2 hours before irrigation, but that's just my preference. I've never had any luck with the "PE" version of sudafed. I always have to get the "original" version that they keep behind the pharmacy counter. Obviously you need to make sure your doctor approves use of sudafed. It really made a difference for me.
• Saline nasal spray - the kind that does a mist up your nose. Just get the plain saline version. Doing this a few times in each nostril helps keep everything moist and keeps the mucous moving between irrigations. Again, check with your doctor first.
• Popsicles - Basically anything cold will help reduce swelling.
  
• Cold, Soft Foods - anything cold that doesn't require you to open your mouth much will be very helpful. Yogurt worked well for a few days.
  

Recovery Day of Surgery:
When I got home, I was hungry. I was told to avoid hot foods, so I had yogurt and a piece of bread with butter. I couldn't open my mouth very far, so I had to break up the bread into small pieces. After dinner I took a pain pill and went to bed. My pain wasn't much, but I wanted to sleep well without being awoken by pain. I put some pillows under the head of my mattress, and slept on my back.

Day 1:
Because of the angle needed to keep my airway open, my neck was at a funny angle during surgery. The morning after surgery, I woke up with some pain and weakness in my neck. My throat was a little sore because of the breathing tube used during surgery. Other than that, my nose was only a little sore. Tylenol worked great for the pain. I had to change the drainage/gauze/tape thing 15 times on the first day. I felt a little dizzy, so I didn't drive anywhere. I took 2 naps, sleeping a total of 14 hours. When I went to bed the first day, I had a hard time staying asleep. The gauze on my face was uncomfortable, but I had to wear it.

Day 2:
I called my doctor and asked what I could do to sleep. I told him I didn't need the pain medicine for pain, and I was worried about taking it just to sleep. He told me to buy some benadryl, which would make me drowsy enough to sleep. I woke up on day two with very little pain, except my neck pain. The sore throat was gone. I tried using a massager to relieve the neck pain, but it caused vibrations in my nose that hurt. I took sudafed to clear up congestion, then did my irrigation. From then on irrigation was not a problem. I was still not able to open my mouth very much, and I didn't have much of an appetite. But I forced myself to eat a popsicle, and some buttered bread. I changed the gauze/tape thing about 10 times on day 2. I took a nap in the afternoon. Tylenol relieved the small amount of pain. I took benadryl to help me sleep, and I slept through the night.

Day 3:
I could open my mouth a little more. I could eat milk and cereal for breakfast. I changed the gauze / tape thing 5 times this day. Tylenol relieved my pain, and benadryl helped me sleep. After this day, I rarely needed tylenol. I didn't need the gauze / drainage thing after day 3.

Days 4 - 7:
My nose was a little sore, but I had no pain. I could open my mouth fairly well, and I was able to eat most foods. My appetite came back, and I ate well. On day 5 I was able to eat some warm foods. I didn't need Tylenol, as I had no pain. My irrigation schedule and antibiotics were on schedule. My surgeon wasn't available to remove the stents on day 7, so I had to wait over the weekend. It was actually a good thing because I had a few more days to heal.

Days 7 - 10:
Everything continued to heal. I didn't need Tylenol at all. After day 8 I didn't need sudafed to allow me to do the irrigations. On day 9 I was able to return to the gym to use the elliptical machine, but I had to be careful not to get my heart rate up too much. Just enough to break a sweat. I was able to eat anything. I still avoided hot drinks, but that was my choice.

Day 11:
The surgeon removed the stents today. I did two saline rinses before my 1PM appointment, just to be sure everything was clean. The surgeon snipped the stitch, and pulled each one out. It didn't hurt at all. Because I had done such a good job of irrigating, he said my healing was going very well. He cleaned out my nose with a "booger sucker", and I was on my way. He requested a follow up visit in 6 weeks. I noticed on my way home that the air felt very cold in my nostrils. I used a tissue to keep it all warm until I got home. After a few hours, the cold nostril feeling has gone away. The surgeon said I would have a little swelling for about a week after the stents were removed. He also said I shouldn't lift anything more than 15 pounds for another 3 weeks. I have to continue the irrigations 3 times a day for 3 more weeks.

It's now day 11, and I am breathing extremely well. I can fill my lungs in less than two seconds, where it used to take 7 breathing through my nose.

I was very anxious about the surgery. But now that it's done, I am thrilled! I only wish I had been able to do this years before.

Obviously, I am not a doctor. If you find any of this useful, talk to your doctor before you implement any of it. When it doubt, ask your doctor. This is not medical advice.

Atheists and Morality - Are Atheists evil because they reject God?

I am often asked this question: Are Atheists evil / immoral because they reject God?

There seem to be two possible sources for morality, depending on your personal beliefs. Morality either comes from deity, or is a matter of social norms reinforced by emotion and instinct.

Deity is claimed to be omnipotent, benevolent, and unchanging. If morality comes from deity, you would expect the morality to be unchanging throughout human history.

The bible provides a snapshot of morality at two distinct times in history. In the old testament morality included specific diet, observance of animal sacrifice, and a rigid social hierarchy. Slavery, child labor, and child marriage were all encouraged and tolerated to different degrees. The old testament also precluded all non-Hebrews from salvation. In the new testament the strict diet is different, animal sacrifice is gone, and Christ himself exemplified dissolution of the social hierarchy. In the new testament, the "Hebrews only" policy is overturned.

Recent Christian history is replete with examples of changed morality: Conquest, forced conversion, killing of "heathens", slavery and indebted servitude are just a few examples.

All of these activities are currently considered evil, immoral actions. Yet, these actions were considered morally acceptable at some point in the past.

The fact that morality changes over time suggests that it is a purely human phenomenon. Religion can have positive and negative effects on the prevalent morality of a culture.

The basic sources of morality as a human phenomenon are sympathy, empathy, and self reflection. Think of it this way: If you see another person being stabbed, you have a physical and emotional empathetic response. You know what pain feels like, so you empathize with the stabbed person. If you have an emotional attachment to the stabbed person, your empathy is even stronger.

The same holds true for most evils. Empathy and sympathy inform morality, thus keeping rape, murder, theft and infidelity in check. Babies are born with the basic emotional framework for empathy and sympathy. These qualities slowly emerge as the baby grows and experiences life. As the child grows, self-reflection comes into play. As the child experiences their environment, they use their empathy/sympathy system to judge actions and circumstances around them. As they mature they begin to reflect on how their actions effect others, modifying their behavior accordingly.

The empathy / sympathy / self reflection system is a balance between basic human emotions and the rational mind. If you look at it from this perspective, you can understand why this system is easily overloaded by powerful emotions elicited by things like: greed, racism, nationalism, and even religion.

As you can see, Atheists are just as capable of morality and kindness as believers. The difference is: Atheists have no "sin / repentance / forgiveness" belief. From the moment an immoral deed is done, we own it. We have to wrestle with it in our own conscience, make appropriate amends, and forgive ourselves.

As you are probably aware, it is often more difficult to forgive yourself than to accept forgiveness from another.

I hope this helps set the record straight.

Some facts about war...

1. The stated purpose is seldom the outcome.
2. Politicians who start them rarely fight them.
3. Although disguised as defending liberty, they are often at the expense of liberty.
4. Civilian populations are rarely exempted from the killing.
5. Governments sensor media reporting to hide the "realities of war".
6. The soldiers return traumatized, if they return at all.
7. Soldiers who survive come back to a ruined country and/or unemployment.
8. The treasury is opened to "contractors" who raid with impunity.
9. Social and legal pressure is used to silence dissent.
10. Dissent is either labelled as "treason" or "sedition".
11. Religion endorses killing, and is silent on civilian deaths.
12. Conscription is often necessary to avoid defeat.
13. Lies, half truths, and distraction are employed to motivate support for war.
14. Habeas Corpus is often suspended.
15. The victors are left with debt, which is passed to future generations.
16. The losers are left with broken families and a devastated country.
17. Most nations have nuclear weapons, or have strong allies who have them.
18. Rape is a weapon of war.
19. Genocide is war's constant companion.
20. War can come to American soil.

I'm not a pacifist. I understand that war is necessary under certain narrow circumstances. I would fight to DEFEND my country. The problem is that our leaders frame everything in terms of national defense. Before we're aware of the deception, war hysteria has gripped the country.

I hope that we will all realize the true horrors of war, and the fact that it could come home to roost, before we participate in the patriotic fervor of war hysteria.

The Way to Peace

To look at Christian history, it is hardly conceivable that modern, prosperous, relatively peaceful nations would exist today. Christians "evolved" from brutal zealots to modern, peace-loving people.

You also can't look to the Bible for the source of this peace. The Bible is filled with social rules, prohibitions, and punishments that are barbaric by modern standards. If Christians don't judge the Bible with modern sensibilities, why do they judge the Quran with modern sensibilities?

If we judge the Quran to be more violent, you have to consider the times in which it was written. The Quran was written in the 7th century, which was an extremely violent time in human history. It was written down as events unfolded.

On the other hand, the old testament came from oral tradition passed down for thousands of years, and finally written down when writing became possible. Before it was written down, the stories likely changed. Over the course of thousands of years, much of the violence was probably lost in the oral transmission. The new testament was written during the time and geography of "Pax Romana", a time of relative peace in human history.

One of the most peaceful religions on the planet has holy books that are much more violent than the bible or the quran. The Hindus have the mahabharata and the ramayana. The Hindus have managed to become quite peaceful. Perhaps they take lessons on the evils of violence from these books. Is it so inconceivable that Muslims could do the same from the Quran? Many do, actually.

Christians have modernized and moderated through education, prosperity, and learning from the mistakes of their ancestors. Christianity has gone through enlightened / peaceful periods, and fell into violent periods of regress. Islam has enjoyed many enlightened /peaceful periods.

Islam is emerging from a violent period of regress. Just look at the progress of women's suffrage in the middle east to see how rapid this emergence is happening. Christians live in a nascent period of enlightenment. It wasn't so long ago that Christians were violent and aggressive toward "pagans", "heathens", and "savages".

If history has any lesson for the modern world it is this:
Enlightenment, prosperity and peace are fleeting and fragile. These ideal states of human existence are easily disrupted by violence, aggression, and war. If we wish to live our lives in, and pass on to our children this ideal state, we must stop vilifying each other. It is imperative that we start building cultural bridges and break down the barriers that divide us. We can pass on to our children a culture of enlightenment and peace. We just have to set aside our hatred and mistrust.